How much - or Extreme

How much should you intervene in the matters, of the people you want to help.

There are always relationships in one's life, where you are not very close to someone, but want to be a part of their life, and help them in whatever problems they have. As always you never know, whats on their mind, what do they want and all those chaotic possibilities. You dont know, whether your help is going to bring 'happiness' or 'tension and frustration' in their life. It might be that a specific intervention might be not required for, and could be considered as an unfriendly act. The person in question might feel being troubled unnecssarily or for worse, could take it as an insult. You on the other hand do not want to bring all these thoughts on their mind, and just want a smooth solution for them.

On the other hand - You struggle with your mind, more than anything else - busy predicting what would be the effect, and obviously its useless, given all this randomness.

The battle begins You vs Them...Or may be you vs you. On one side you cannot handle not helping them, on the other you cannot accept troubling them...

I know the answer- as all other solutions to social problems - its communication...
But thats also not so easy & natural...